A wonderful post by an Elite Gent who so many of our ladies have had the pleasure of meeting. Thank you, David!
The years I’ve enjoyed meeting the fabulous women at Elite have given me some of the best evenings of my life. Wonderful encounters, memorable stories, great sex. Truly, Elite is the only agency you’ll ever need if you want to meet women you may never see more than once but will certainly never forget.
If my title and opening sentence sound a bit familiar, it is because I’ve adapted them from Fleur’s blog. There’s two sides to every story: the escort and the client. Fleur has written one, so I’m writing the other. I’m going to follow her storyline too and I hope you enjoy both!
Let’s start with motivation and choice. Every lady I meet on a date has chosen to be there — for all sorts of different reasons. Some are buying an apartment, others putting a child through private school or planning a massive round the world adventure. Without exception they like men, love sex and enjoy the thrill of new encounters. But they have different motivations and need a certain privacy around their work as an escort.
My situation is uncannily similar. Once we acknowledge the obvious difference of my being the client and paying for the pleasure, I too have lots of different motivations. I travel incessantly for my work, I’m always on the road: airports, trains, car rentals, hotels. Every city, a new problem to solve, a different set of customer egos to manage. I’m good at my job, enjoy the variety and challenge, and it’s very well paid. But it is emotionally a total blank. Every city has its pick-up bars and call girls, so it’s not just a question of getting laid: I can if I want. But I want something more and different: a conversation, a connection, an evening spent with a smart, sexy, interesting woman who is making her own choices and engaging on our terms. That’s why I like the old-fashioned word: my lady is not an escort, she’s a courtesan.
So here is my version of Fleur’s Do’s and Don’ts. I’m what I’ll call a ‘regular irregular’. A few times every year I feel the need to get in touch with Lisa and arrange a meeting. Incessant travel means these can be many months apart, but Lisa is not bothered. She’s got to know me, my patterns and my preferences. She’s just happy I’m getting back in touch. Some to-and-fro on WhatsApp and now I have a date…
Here’s the first Don’t. As the client, I know the process starts with pictures. On the website I can see the whole team looking gorgeous in seductive poses and fine lingerie. What’s not to like? I always look at the pictures and read what’s written about each girl — although admittedly with a pinch of salt to hand. But don’t ever forget that the evening might start with a picture but it ends with a person.
If we’re to make a success of our encounter, I need to be as interested in that person, in her as she will try to be for me. We’ll each have our needs, likes and dislikes and we’ve never met before. So it’s an evening of discovery for both of us. It should be flirty, fun and feisty at different points in the date. But it can also be intimate, serious, caring. I have surprised myself by being very open about what’s on my mind, and have often heard deep confidences in return. It may be for one night only, but this is a sign of real connection.
Next, a Do. A lady will often talk about the adrenal thrill of looking her best as she finds the meeting place or knocks on the corridor side of the hotel door. That’s the thrill of the new, unknown. But stranger danger is also a sad, shameful fact of male behaviour. So do try as quickly as possible to establish a mood of psychological safety. After a welcome kiss and maybe a drink at the bar, she’ll need to message Lisa to let her know we’ve met up OK. Then I emphasise how I know she’ll have her own rules about privacy, identity etc and also what she likes (or not) when we’re body to body. They’re her rules and I will follow them, no question. I won’t push or pressurise. If she chooses to relax her rules, then that’s her choice and hers alone. I remind myself that having a well-groomed look and fine aftershave is all very well, but they are irrelevant unless she feels safe, can truly relax and start to have fun.
For the same reason I’m a huge fan of overnights. It means neither of us are watching the clock, we can take as long as we like to have a meal and talk before we get down to the intimate part of the evening. And trust me, there is nothing nicer than waking up the next day with a beautiful woman sleepy beside you. Morning sex can be even better than the night before…
Next, “If you have a job, you will prepare for it, everyday.” That goes for me too. To build a connection with her, I need to clear proper space in a busy life. Shut down the laptop, put my phone on silent, and as soon as we’ve met up, switch the damn thing off altogether. The hotel room, too, needs to be tip-top tidy. I’ll buy some fizz and some grapes and nibbles in case we get peckish later. Then shower, shave, aftershave. Your date goes to great lengths to look her best. Pay her the compliment of doing the same. I’m no Cary Grant, but it still feels good to look sharp. Most of all, I prepare by re-reading those mischievous words on the website. Where does she like to travel? What films or books does she enjoy? I’m not looking for answers, I’m looking for clues to get the conversation going, to start to relate to her as a person.
Now Fleur is getting serious: “there is no loyalty in this game, there will be new girls who become flavour of the month.” Who knew, but oh so true. I have to be honest here. Meeting different women — each of them classy, independent, sexy — is why I’m a repeat with Elite. But a date can be so much more than a one-night stand or transactional encounter. There is pleasure, affection, sympathy, the fun of meeting someone new, and, just sometimes, the sense that our encounter could turn into genuine friendship.
As a client, please also keep in mind my situation as described earlier. I too compete in a marketplace, where the rewards can be great but the stress is always there. I too have plenty of encounters with transactionally-minded, testosterone-fueled men who are my customers — and for whom there is a word that begins with ‘d’ and ends with ‘head’. Increasingly today there’s also the rampaging alpha-female client, who has smashed their way through every glass ceiling and has the scars and general distrust of men to show for it. They’re not exactly shy when they’re telling me exactly what they need me to do.
In this kind of world, the key to survive and thrive is respect. If my customer does not respect me, I will quickly find reasons not to work for them. However, if they do, they will get everything I can give them to help solve their challenges and move ahead. Respect is so fundamental. I hope that the amazing courtesans whom I’ve met through Elite feel that I’ve always respected them. And I urge you to do so too. Then when the magic happens, you unclip her bra, she slides down your pants, and we start to enjoy ourselves, we are doing so on the basis of mutual respect as well as sheer erotic excitement. Let’s have a great time together!
All the best
David