Anyone who follows me on Twitter will have seen me ranting about Sugar Daddy websites recently. After years of interviewing girls who had first tried and failed to make any money from Sugar Daddy websites, I thought I would give it a try.
I went into this experiment with an open mind. I pushed all the stories of girls being manipulated into having ‘free’ sex with men who claimed to be wealthy to the back of my mind. I even brushed aside the supremely naive 22 year year old girl who had sobbed to me over lunch that she had felt violated after meeting a 50 something Sugar Daddy, being pressurised into degrading sex and walking away with nothing but a free lunch and a bottle of perfume.
She was young and stupid and I am not. I figured, if anyone can make it work on one of these sites, it has to be me with my vast experience of ‘managing’ men seeking sex in exchange for money, right?
The very first thing that became apparent to me after signing up as a fully paid member to several of these websites is that vast majority of men there are simply not prepared to pay for sex at all. Sure, they want sex. That’s the reason they are there. And they want it with women much younger and much more beautiful than themselves. But they ain’t paying. So how do they get this free sex with women so obviously out of their reach? They pretend to be wealthy, they offer dinners and stays in nice hotels, they offer to spoil you with gifts. All entirely useless of course. None of these things will pay your bills.
Now anyone who has been involved in the escort industry either as a worker or a client knows this: it is, by and large, an honest transaction. Often, like the ‘Sugar Daddies’, escort clients (punters) are seeking sex with younger, beautiful women. Like Sugar Daddies, punters realise they need to pay for it. However, here is where the two groups of men differ. Rather than manipulate girls into fucking them, punters agree monetary rates in advance for a certain number of hours, book a hotel (very often a nice one), and pay the girl in cash up front. Gifts are not unusual. Dinner is not unsual. Even tips are not unsual. Punters are absolute fucking saints in comparison!
I received hundreds and hundreds of messages on the Sugar Daddy websites (my pics are hot). Each time I replied that I was a seeking a financial arrangement and I suggested one overnight a week, for say £3,000 a month. That would put my overnight rate at £750. Frankly, a fucking bargain! Responses varied from ‘sorry I don’t need to pay for sex’ to ‘the most I can pay a month is £700’ and the cringeworthy ‘let’s meet for dinner and then maybe after I can try out the goods before committing?’
Of those hundreds and hundreds of messages, I got only a couple from men I felt were possibly genuine and who claimed to be prepared to pay the sort of money I was after. Here is where the hard work started. On giving these few men my phone number, I was bombarded with whatsapp messages and phone calls. Dinners were arranged, but of course these men wanted more than that. Regular contact, daily phones chats in which they talked to me like I was their girlfriend (i’d not met or earned a penny out of them yet). This is in stark contrast to the traditional escort/client relationship where there is little communication between paid time.
It did my head in. Experiment was terminated at that point. Life is too fucking short. 3K a month was not enough, if indeed I was ever going to see a penny.
Here is the reality of it all. If you want to earn good money in exchange for companionship and sex, forget Sugar Daddy websites. By signing up to them you are already trying to prostitute yourself, so for God’s sake do it properly and sign up to an agency like mine, or even get yourself on Adultwork (assuming you have the nouse to look after yourself). If you are smart and attractive, you can expect to earn several thousand plus every month as an escort. I can guarantee you will NEVER earn anything like that from a Sugar Daddy website, if indeed you earn anything at all. If one of my girls spent 6 months dicking around on Sugar Daddy websites rather than working as an escort, I would estimate they’d suffer a financial loss of anywhere in the region of £30,000 – £50,000. Be smart, ladies.
If you have found this blog while considering signing up to a Sugar Daddy website, my advice to you is to switch your business brain on and get away from this thick celebrity inspired bullshit of bagging yourself a rich boyfriend to rinse so you can do fuck all, all day. Wealth comes with hard work.